exploring new spaces.

I will now be posting (much, much more often, i pinky swear!) over HERE.

Cy Twombly.

An artwork (Untitled Part V (a painting in nine parts)) I haven't been able to get out of my head since visiting his gallery at The Menil.

Also, for fun: How You Think NPR Reporters Look Vs. How They Actually Do.

she walked in through the out door, out door.

A fun list of things I like. Inspired by the month of February, my boyfriend's birthday, watching the Grammys a few weekends ago, etc. etc. etc.
Prince (because there is no better lyric than, she walked in through the out door, out door).
The Black Keys.
Robert Plant.
Jack White.
Frank Ocean.
Brunch at Cheevers (for Walker's birthday) (he ordered chicken & waffles) (I love his birthday more than he does).
Brunch in general.
On essayists.
Whiskey Bourbon.
The television series Happy Endings.
The style aesthetics of both Stone Fox Bride and Stone Cold Fox.
Jalapeño chips (the ones at Jimmy John's are decidedly best) (also, I used to hate and despise Jimmy John's until Walker came along and now my mouth waters just thinking about the place).
And, on the topic of chips, Zapps! from New Orleans.
A steaming bowl of Pho.
Law & Order SVU marathons (I am hooked) (likely directly related to being enrolled in Crim Pro I right now) (but seriously, I can't stop watching the seemingly endless supply on USA Network).
Nachos.
Chives.
The name of my favorite lip color: black honey.
Bethenny yoga videos (of Skinnygirl Margarita and Bravo fame) because they just work for me.
Links recommended to me via my cousin: Joy by Zadie Smith and Java Jive.
Moonrise Kingdom (watched on Valentine's Day).
Beasts of the Southern Wild (watched sobbing between my parents).
AND my sister interviewed over at Tomboy Style.

talk'n feb. fourteenth on feb. fifth

Offerings at Momofuku Milk Bar.

I used to be pretty infamous for my chocolate consumption. Just ask anyone who has lived with me. But since graduating college, my taste buds have trended more toward the salty and savory than the sweet when I want to snack.
That being said, I still love relishing in a holiday that allows for the ordering of a really amazing dessert. So I put together my list of top desserts in the Oklahoma City metro area just for funsies...

Cookies and Cream Milkshake: Braums
This is my go-to.
A real classic.
It's perfection.
Extra points if the Braums employee gets the order wrong at least once or hands you a cup covered in milky-slime debris: just further proof that the end product is so so worth it.

Tiramisu: Cous Cous Cafe
Confession: I actually just tried this just last night and feel like I've discovered gold. Tiramisu is my absolute favorite favorite favorite dessert, and this little Moroccan restuarant (also serving great Baklava) has the best for under three bucks!

Chocolate Pyramid: Paseo Grill
This is my fancy pants/work lunch dessert. With so many layers: and I love layering. Especially the homemade whipped cream layer and caramel/chocolate icing layer and the classic ice cream layer.

Buttermilk Pie: Iron Star
I just like the idea of buttermilk pie so much that I made Walker take me here at three in the afternoon once just to try some: good and only makes special menu appearances.

Salted Caramel Chocolate Bar: Prairie Thunder Bakery
This is not a regular menu item. In fact, it may only be connected to the Thunder making the playoff games. But it is so rich and decadent and completely worth it. Plus I'm a sucker for salted caramel.

The Key Lime Pie: Charleston's
I was trying to avoid places that can't be passed off as local or homegrown, but this dessert is worth a mention.
So fresh and juicy, with real chunks of lime in it. And that graham cracker crust, whew.
I feel like key lime pie is the type of dessert you could spend your entire life searching the world over for just a hint of a perfect slice, meanwhile it was right under your nose at Charleston's the entire time.

Lavender Cake: The Earth
It's light purple! And tastes like perfume. Worth trying.

Ricotta Cheese Cookie: Cafe 501
You want to see the face of God and the wings of angels: get to the center of this cookie.


p.s. My preferred method of eating restaurant dessert is ordering it to-go and eating it out of the styrofoam container on the drive home.

p.p.s. On a completely unrelated note (and for a little fit-spiration)...
Tracy Anderson article email'd to me via Goop. Thanks Gwyneth. I now feel absolutely inspired for a Lent devoted entirely to happiness and healthiness.

an extraordinary theory.

I am currently reading: An Extraordinary Theory of Objects by Stephanie LaCava and a couple of the quotes from the first few pages really resonated with me:

"What saved me, in the end, was my fear of change transforming into raw wonder and wanderlust."

"Intense sensitivity can be debilitating, or it can increase the upside of chance and the power of whimsy - a need for storytelling, strangers, and odd encounters."

I also recently saw one of the short films featured at Sundance called The Arm, which was this funny, sweet, earnest account of a high school kid freeing himself from total text message entrapment.

So now I have this inclination to throw my iPhone out a window and go stomping through mud puddles, study archeology in Egypt, plan a trip to Rio, run up a mountain, etc.

At the very least, I'm putting my phone away when I'm interacting with real live humans: because, despite it being addicting and convenient, there is nothing more rude or self-involved.
(I may be the only person who liked this mom's iPhone contract with her 13-year-old son.)

Other stuff:

I am currently loving: the subscription to New York Magazine my boyfriend got me for Christmas. A few gems:

Why You Truly Never Leave High School.

How I Turned Instagram Into A Dating Service.

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Checking things off of my Oklahoma bucket list, I finally ate at Meers after a hike: #friedpeaches #friedgreentomatoes #breadandbutterfriedpickles #burger  #RCCola #teapartymemorabilia

And I've come to the conclusion that I love hikes as long as they are motivated by treats/a light at the end of the tunnel: see Machu Picchu, see my mom's promise of root beer floats when we were little, see the aforementioned fried peaches.

This may be a good way to approach life. Motivation via treats. For me, this usually comes in the form of coffee: I lie in my bed marveling at the day I have ahead of me and promise myself coffee if I can get out of bed instead of hitting snooze.

&

I want to go to Maui now, thanks a lot fashion blog.

&

Beyonce reads Joan Didion via my subscription to The Beyhive. Girl's got great taste. Duh.

Don't worry, I also subscribed to Goop.

patron saints of snail mail.

So rarely do we get to hear a great mail story (especially with the financial straits of the post office these days), that when two occurred over the holiday season I figured I just had to share:

First: this summer I sent my aunt a postcard from Petra, Jordan addressed only to "Aunt Barb" and accidentally sent to her work address, which happens to be the very big University of California San Diego.

While most university mail directors/interceptors would have balked, this kind soul attached a note to the postcard reading "We are trying to find the right Aunt Barb, if it's not you, please forward to the next Barbara in the campus directory."
Well, my little postcard went through over thirty "Barbaras" documented via the university mailing system before finally finding the right one just before Christmas break. Which means over thirty people took the time to find another Barbara on campus and forward it to them.

And then: I received this email from my cousin Sandra when I asked for a return address in reply to the sweet postcard she'd sent me while studying abroad...

Cousin! So glad you got your post! You won't believe the story behind its arrival. I had a little paper bag full of posted postcards that I had written to friends all over the world and somehow, I still don't quite understand how because I was being so careful, I lost it while I was roaming around London one day very near Christmas. As you can imagine, I was absolutely heartbroken that all of my written treasures had been lost and that I would have no way of knowing where I had left the bag. I hate losing things and I hate that feeling of not knowing where. But as soon as I got home I started to receive emails and voicemails from friends and family thanking me for the good wishes! Some lovely person must have found the bag in London and popped them in the post box for me! Hurrah!

...I like to think these thoughtful moments to take time for written correspondence inspired strangers to magically rally around it.
From Wikipedia: A patron saint is a saint who, in Eastern Orthodox, Oriental Orthodox, Anglican, Roman Catholic, and Eastern Catholic Christian practice, is regarded as the intercessor and advocate in heaven of a nation, place, craft, activity, class, clan, family, or person. Patron saints, because they have already transcended to the metaphysical, are believed to be able to intercede effectively for the needs of their special charges.

also for the new year: no fear.

story of the year.

So, first read this news story.

I never watch local news, but randomly saw this "EDMOND MAN ACCUSED OF COMMANDING PITT BULL TO ATTACK GIRLFRIEND" story come on after a television show and thought about it a longtime afterward: like wait, hold on, a random driver just picked this woman up? Wow, that's really lucky.

Then I go get coffee with one of my best friends Beth (who just got married this August), and she's like, "Kate, the craziest thing happened to me the other day."

She and her sister were just driving in a neighborhood when they saw a shirtless, bloody man and woman being attacked by a pit bull.
They stopped the car to call 911 when suddenly the woman started running towards them with the pit bull at her heels. Beth said she didn't even have to think about it, the look in the woman's eyes made her automatically open the car door.

Once inside, the woman begged them to drive away, because her boyfriend was trying to kill her. She then thought she saw him getting in his car to come after them.
The 911 dispatcher asked if the boyfriend had any weapons on him, to which the woman (barely conscious at this point, Beth said she must have been operating on pure adrenaline because she was so badly injured) answered that he had a gun, but also always carried a knife. Needless to say they were scared out of their wits.

When they safely met the police, firefighters, and paramedics at a nearby bank parking lot - having to carry the woman out of the car - none of the responders could believe that Beth and her sister weren't related to the woman in some capacity, instead absolute strangers.
Later, investigators told Beth that she had basically saved the woman's life.
Apparently she'd been beaten for hours before - maybe even days (facts are still fuzzy - also, please note that this is a story based on my own remembrances from a conversation Beth telling me over coffee and is in no way conclusive of the man's actual guilt).

Moral of the story is:
Of all the news stories to catch, I caught this one and dwelled on that random driver and the mysteries of fate well after the 60 second sound bite
& then the random driver turns out to be one of the most kind, loving, and selfless people I know:
heroes/random acts/courage/fortune/providence/etc are real! So take that into your new year.

so thank full.

...post-Thanksgiving breakfast.

a little career inspiration.

WHEN YOU FIND SOMETHING THAT FEELS RIGHT, CONCENTRATE ON REFINING YOUR SKILLS AND EDUCATING YOURSELF ABOUT YOUR CHOSEN FIELD. COMMIT TO IT.

when you don't win npr's three minute fiction, you post your entry on your blog.

The Guidelines: Must be 600 words or less and revolve around a U.S. President real or imagined.

Just Desserts

Pale fingers clutch at the silk tablecloth, dragging everything off in a single ripple as the dining room chair lurches backward, a limp body now prone on the ground. There is the sudden smash of crystal-cut stemware, chandelier light glints off flying cutlery, and a thousand gasps suck the air out of the room.

Secret service agents in penguin tuxedos appear from behind curtains and palm trees to descend upon the scene. They push the elegantly dressed crowd back, whisking me away to an underground bunker before I can take stock of the situation.

Moments ago I was staring down a slice of chocolate cake. I had managed to avoid food all night, but now I was starving.

I debated with myself, “Would it be so far out-of-line to require a food taster?” Just to take a few nibbles of my food and drink in order to confirm it contained no poison?

“Snap out of it,” I reasoned back. You are not a Roman emperor or Henry the Eighth. There are no velvet robes and golden goblets here, no turkey legs, no slaves, nor court jesters.

In fact, in my slim navy suit and powder blue tie I stand for quite the opposite.

I flew jets in the Air Force just like my father and grandfather before me. I graduated top of my class from an Ivy League college. I debated the fate of democracy on live television. I’ve looked tyrannical dictators – the kind who should have their food tasted – dead in the eye.

I am the very definition of adept, agile, and adroit while handling any situation thrown at me as the President of the United States. Some have even called me cool.

But then there is this matter of the dessert. A drop of sweat threatens to slide down my forehead.

I never thought my Achilles heel would be paranoia, but I’ve become obsessed with the possibility of an assassination attempt on my life.

It all started last year when a kid, not even twenty-one, shot a couple rounds of ammunition in the direction of the Oval Office. They later caught him in pajamas, filling up his Volvo at a gas station outside of Pennsylvania. He claimed to be Jesus in cahoots with Oprah via Twitter, and that I was the anti-Christ that had to be stopped.

I wasn’t even in town, in China for the economic summit. But later an agent pointed out a knick in the thick, bulletproof glass of the window situated just behind the Resolute Desk. That’s when the threat became palpable: there are people out there who want me dead.

I now imagine my neck snapped in half like a twig by a karate-kid operative with hooded eyes, lying in wait among a crowd of supporters at a re-opened industrial plant in Indiana.

Visions of Jackie O in her pink pillbox hat, of gaunt Lincoln in box seats at the theatre, of young Jodie Foster in Taxi Driver; they run through my head in a loop as I stoop down to kiss the baby that has been thrust at me expectantly. Adorable cooing and rosy cheeks aside, I see a wolf in sheep’s clothing. 

The Vice President is smiling at me now; his perfect rows of teeth are Shark white. I eye him warily. The very definition of his job is wanting my job. The slice in front of him is carrot cake.

 “Hey Phil,” I ask with a strained smile, “Would you mind trying the chocolate out for me to see if it has peanuts in it? I can’t stand peanuts.”

p.s. i had a lot of fun with this.

p.p.s. the winner can be read here.

we don't even have to try. it's always a good time.

Inheriting the friends and family of your boyfriend could either be one of the worst or one of the best things about dating. 

In the case of Walker, I got extremely lucky: they are seriously the most awesome people. Like, the type of people that just inherently make life better.

And inspired by Anthony Bourdain's talk this weekend (Who, it turns out, was forty-four when he was "discovered." Forty-four people! Never give up.) I thought I should get back to blogging by starting with our recent trip to Houston, Texas to visit some of these people.

I've never been to Houston.

I thought: traffic, sprawl, strip malls, NASA, oil & gas, humidity.

But since everyone keeps moving there; and with articles like this one in the Atlantic; and the fact that it topped the Forbes list of America's Coolest Cities; I've been pretty curious lately...

First was happy hour at Uchi. Which was sushi-that-melts-in-your-mouth AMAZING. I've wanted to eat there since Paul (who I was rooting for) won Top Chef.

Followed by fajitas for dinner at Ninfa's. Pictured below.

The next morning, after grabbing some incredibly good coffee at Catalina, we got our art fix at the Rothko Chapel and the Menil Collection.

The Rothko Chapel has been on my MUST DO BEFORE I DIE list ever since I had a spiritual awakening in a room full of Rothkos at the Tate Modern in London.
I just loved the idea that this place existed in Houston that was built around exactly what I had felt staring at those paintings an ocean away.
And though I'd be lying if I said I had another spiritual revelation, it was awesome: I wish I could dive right into the canvases.

At the Menil I loved de Chirico's Metaphysical Interior with Biscuits and the Cy Twombly gallery.

Then we had Indian brunch at Pondicheri.

Followed by a stop into Walker's sister's apartment to visit Ellen the bunny!

We were ostensibly watching the OU game, but when Walker gets together with longtime friends: Star Wars.

When in Houston in October, you must check out the Dia de los Muertos festivities:

Then on to The Orange Show. I feel this speaks for itself.

Visiting some awesome dogs at a laundromat + Champagne break:

Then a surreal field of Giant President Heads nestled behind a warehouse right by Super Target. I feel this also speaks for itself:

Topped off with dinner at Oxheart.
Our friend Mark scored reservations weeks in advance to this Bon Appetit-approved hot spot.
And oh my, the vegetables + wine pairings alone.

Plus, best bar of the night: Anvil.

...this post would not be possible without Ashton, Scott, Megan, Jay, Liz -- and Mark (pictured left), who let us stay in his beautiful new art-decorated home, drove us around, made an amazing to-do list for the weekend (i so meant to save and keep), and, in small part, because I stole a lot of his Instagram pictures.

My conclusion: I really love getting to explore great American cities. They are infinitely complex and interesting, and Houston maybe even more so for its lack of zoning laws. 

Featured Music: Good Time, Owl City & Carly Rae Jepsen.

Commentary regarding the drive from OKC to Houston: Buc-ee's gas station emporium = hell.

some inspiration from around the internet.

1. One of my best friends, Christa Pennington, ran the Chicago Marathon yesterday for her dad.
In her words: We finished!!!! We did this for our amazing dad who did not finish in 2000 but 2012 we DID finish for Dad!!!

2. Lululemon goal setting. I like: Sweat once a day.

3. I love every single thing about this picture.




Advice:
Things ruin trips.
...courtesy of the Man Repeller.

Perspective:
You do not need a Fashion Week "survival guide." Fashion Week is not Iraq.
...courtesy of Molly Young's Twitter.

Reminder:
Buzzfeed: A love story in 22 pictures
...I bawled my eyes out.

Michael Chabon! One of my favorite writers.

mejico!

Pictures from San Miguel de Allende on Sea of Shoes reminded me...

This summer I got to make up for all the MTV Spring Break trips I never had by getting to tag along on my super wonderful housemate Colby's family's yearly trip to an all-inclusive resort in Cancun, Mexico. (Thank you times a million!)

Peru cemented my love for heading south.
But I'd never been to Mexico before, and I left feeling as if I’d just begun a love affair.
In fact, I made a little list of all the things I loved about it (and I do realize my perspective is framed upon a stay at a resort on the beach, but I think that's half the fun of it!):

- The romance of names like Belize, Cozumel, Tulum, etc. 

- People watching. Especially the Europeans. Especially the scandalous swimsuits.

- The soaking in of a Mojito at the end of the day on a yellow deck chair.

- The salty ocean ice cream cones in perfect flavors: strawberry, coconut, and chocolate chip.

- Breakfast being the best meal: the juice bar complete with the pulp of watermelon and frothy green of cactus, also contemplating the life of the expert omelet makers and their perfect pan flips.

- The morning run outside the resort: remembering the existence of another world so aesthetically pleasing: blue tile, crawling trellises of flowers, palm fronds, colored stucco.

- Being constantly called "Amiga."

- The bawdy Top 40 American music playing ad nauseam.

- Soda water.

- Mentos.

- Sand in everything.

- The turquoise of the ocean giving way to sapphire blue as it changes in depth. Neon reef fish washed up on shore.

- Monkeys so crazy: swinging from branch to branch exactly as they are depicted in cartoons.

- And never underestimating the power of a light beach read.

GO MEG!

My sister is featured in the October issue of DWELL Magazine. (On stands now!).
And was on Design*Sponge!

the wall.

These are my Instagrams I took of the wall while in Bethlehem.
The wall is basically a security barrier separating Israel from Palestinian Authority controlled areas in the West Bank.
(The graffiti includes a few of the famous Banksys).

There were so many things I got to see and do on this trip that I would certainly classify as life-changers: this one is definitely up there.
I think a trip into some of the Palestinian controlled cities (definitely like Bethlehem) (but probably/obviously not the Gaza Strip) should be a necessary part of any trip to Israel.
Because you will see: people trying their best to go about their lives same as you and me. (and, if in Bethlehem, the Church of the Nativity!)

I take no side: it's an insanely complicated and painful issue that I can barely take a stab at.
Instead, what I took away from the wall is:
1. Walls are ugly things.
2. Trust no politician who makes this issue out to be simple, who talks in good versus bad terms.

oh my gosh the new CAT POWER is so good!!!!!!

NPR is streaming it right now.
The song "Nothin But Time" may have made me tear up.

Other good things:

Read Gone Girl. The very definition of a page turner.

Christina Toci's food diary for Grub Street. A nice reminder to not be so uptight about food.

The discovery of sunnie brook hair tutorials.
I am the worst hair person in the world. It just gets in the way: a time vacuum. Hair appointments akin to a visit to the dentist. But I feel like my hair apathy becomes less and less acceptable: at 25 I should at least know how to curl my own hair. So these are saving my hair/life.